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I defined the confidentiality of a video as "Me only".
But on the activity-list, any member can click the activity "XYZ added a video" and watch this video.
- can you make sure you set login as registered user not admin? because admin can see everything even private privacy
- can you make sure you set "Activity Display Privacy" to Yes from Jomsocial configuration->site?